"Wonder Woman is there to kick ass not give you a boner"
favorite response to some dude saying the Wonder Woman costume isn’t sexy enough on Facebook (via agentturner)
Governor elections are coming up really soon.
Your main tickets are:
Tx. attorney general Greg Abbott (R)
Senator Wendy Davis (D)
Abbott is for “traditional values” AKA against gay rights.
Davis is all for LGBTQ rights.
IF WENDY DAVIS IS ELECTED TEXAS MAY FINALLY LEGALIZE GAY MARRIAGE BY NEXT YEAR.
ALL WE NEED TO DO IS VOTE!!!!!
REBLOG TO SAVE LIVES
She also stands for women’s rights and will fight for them, in case people have already forgotten her name.
|Me:||So, let's say that you're at school and you see a guy you know. I mean, you guys talk every once in a while and he's pretty cool, but you're not like friends or anything. You just talk to him every once in a while.|
|Guy Friend:||What's his name?|
|Me:||I don't know. Frank?|
|Me:||Okay, fine. His name is Will. Okay?|
|Guy Friend:||I don't think it really suits him, but okay.|
|Me:||...So anyway, you're at school during lunchtime and you see Will. So, you notice Will's not eating anything. That's when you realize that Will has no lunch, no money for lunch, and no way of getting either. He's just sitting there like he normally would. He's not acting any differently and he's not asking anyone for anything. Not money, not a fry, not even a salt packet, but you know he's gotta be hungry. So, what do you do?|
|Guy Friend:||Do I have any money?|
|Me:||Yeah. You have enough for you and another meal.|
|Guy Friend:||Duh, I buy him lunch.|
|Me:||Okay, cool. So, like you said, you buy him lunch. You buy your lunch and you buy his lunch and you go over and hand it to him. And, he says, "Wow. You know, that's really nice of you, but I wasn't gonna ask anyone for lunch. I was probably just gonna wait until I got home to eat." And, then you say--|
|Guy Friend:||Nah, it's cool.|
|Me:||Exactly. You say, "Nah, it's cool. I'm just being nice. It's a gift." And, Will says, "You know, that's awesome. You're really nice, bro." And, after that, you guys start hanging out. You guys are like really good buds. You are always hanging out and laughing and just having a good time. So, you guys are friends for a few months, and it's tons of fun. Then, one day, you go up to Will and you say, "Hey, Will, you know, I've been thinking, and I kinda want that five bucks."|
|Guy Friend:||What five bucks?|
|Me:||Hold on. I'm getting there. So, Will says, "What five bucks?" To which, you reply, "Well, we've been hanging out for a long time and it's been really fun, but like, I've done a lot of really nice things for you. Like, I'm always nice to you and I always listen and do things you wanna do, so I was thinking that because I've been so nice, you should pay me back that five bucks I spent to get your lunch right before we started really hanging out."|
|Guy Friend:||What? Why would I--|
|Me:||I'm not done yet. So, then Will looks kinda hurt and he says, "But I thought you were just being nice. I thought that was just a gift." So, you say, "Whether or not it was a gift, don't you think you kinda owe me that five bucks since I've been so nice to you?" And, Will says, "No. I don't think I owe you that!" And you get mad, so you say, "Well, I think that you do, so I think you're being really shitty and stuck up about this and I feel like I've been completely wronged."|
|Guy Friend:||Oh, my God. That's so fucked up of me. I would never do that to Will. Will was nice. We were buds. That's way screwed.|
|Me:||I know, right? Hey, just wondering, have you ever heard of this fictional place called "The Friendzone?"|
|Guy Friend:||Well, yeah, but...|
So a week or so ago when I was on the east coast, in a moment of extreme weakness, I went to see the Avengers exhibit at Times Square. It was awesome, I somehow charmed a really sweet employee — ahem, operative — into giving me their rad as hell SHIELD beret, I bought …
Adding some extra commentary to this:
The amygdala, above being associated with what is described above, also plays a HUGE role in the immediate experience of fear. Steve Rogers is going to not only have more extreme emotions, but in particular he will feel a MUCH stronger knee-jerk fear reaction than ever before, one that is probably harder to overcome the way most of us do. That is, normally we overcome the emotional, knee-jerk feeling of fear by thinking, logically, about the fear and rationalizing it. If his amygdala is that much stronger, it’s going to be harder to wrestle that under control than it is for a normal person. And when you consider the situations Steve gets himself into, you have to stop and realize just how damn brave he is to fight down that fear and jump into danger time and again, without much thought about it (seemingly).
Erskine said that the formula takes you and makes you more, and now we know what he was talking about (in the brain at least), so of course they needed the guy who would jump on the grenade though. Because if it was someone who isn’t Steve, that fear, and the natural selfishness of most human beings, would make for a mean combination. It wouldn’t be a super soldier jumping up to save people, it would be a super villain trying to overcome his constant fear by seeking control and power (not definitely, but it’s a likely possibility). But Steve doesn’t think twice about his duty, just jumps up to do it, and swallows back the super-levels of terror, constantly, because that’s who he is.
Now can you imagine how scared he would have been in CA: The First Avenger, hearing about the 107th being captured and dead. It’s his first instance of dealing with real terror since the serum, and he’s now terrified—amplified terror—that his best friend is dead. And Steve, rather than being scared for himself (or in spite of it) feels so much more terror at the thought of losing Bucky that he launches a one-man rescue mission. And really, understanding his amplified terror puts a lot more in perspective. It’s as though, in his emotions, he didn’t have a choice—the fear of losing Bucky was simply too great, too overwhelming, and he has no defence against that kind of terror anymore, not really. So in his mind, was scares him is not even his own mortality as much as the mortality of his loved ones, and that is why he had to be chosen for the serum, and why most others could never have been what he is.
ALSO… one last thing… consider Bucky, who was experimented on, and may have a similar version of the serum as Steve did. Imagine his amplified amygdala, and fear, and guilt. Imagine the Winter Soldier who lives in constant terror and complete inability to do anything about it. (sorry, not sorry).
"tea is just leaf water!" "yeah well coffee is just bean water!" wow, it’s. it’s like everything is made of things. this door is just wood rectangle. this poster is just ink paper. this lemonade is just lemon water. wow, it’s like you can combine ingredients to make things that are more enjoyable than the initial parts of the equation. sure is a magical world we live in
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Okay. I understood all the flack Twilight got for being an abusive relationship. Because it was and it was being read by a very young and impressionable audience. But ffs, 50 Shades is an ADULT NOVEL. Iit is about a BDSM couple. Which - newsflash - do exist. It is a completely consensual form of dominate/submissive sex play. The whole concept of domestic violence and abuse is that one side exerts control over an unwilling victim. I don’t recall Anastasia, or whatever she’s called, protesting to Christian’s form of sex. If I remember correctly, she quite enjoyed it! So before you condemn a work of romanticizedfiction, actually consider it’s audience and remember that they are mature and capable enough to know the difference between reality and fiction.
so i guess you didn’t read the parts where he coerces her and the part where he continues after she has used her safeword and acts like a fucking creep whenever they aren’t having sex
it is the worst possible introduction to BDSM i could imagine
i know my shit okay
im hoping the people defending this book are 1. never getting into BDSM 2. not currently into BDSM 3. havent read the book bc i dont want to believe anyone is that fucking stupid
knowledge on you right now.
Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.
So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.
Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t take no for an answer.
Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES. AND GETS MAD THAT SHE DIDN’T TELL HIM SHE WAS UPSET. He’s the one who should fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s the act of a selfish abuser.
Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their submissive.
Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.
And this post is going into my bookmarks, because it is beautiful.
What scares me most is the fact that people, misinformed and ignorant people, will now try to enter the community/find play partners with the dangerous ideas of what BDSM is. They won’t respect a sub, they won’t listen.
And that can seriously hurt people. People can DIE.
Interesting how we’re always hearing how shameful and irresponsible it is to be a teen mom.
But we never hear the same messages directed at teen dads.
Or even the words “teen dad”.
It’s almost like society demonizes women’s sexuality and sexual choices while absolving men of all sexual responsibility and judgement.